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Maybe you were like me. And then, of course, the cloud just covered everything, whether you were from Moor Valley Park or whether you were up the top of Bellsfield. Now, there was huge amounts of people out and that was nice to see. But for me and for many of us, it was just the darkness for that period. And that was a bit kind of strange, wasn't it? That was a phenomenal... So the day Ireland went dark, front of the mail today, sensational. Millions view the eclipse across Europe and their double page spreads from all over the European Union of people in Germany, the Netherlands, England, Italy, way up in Finland and places like that far over in Ukraine.
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There were four other people on the boat at the time when this happened, and he was putting out, I think it was like a four-foot blue shark, and he was admiring it on the line by all accounts, and it twisted upward and snapped at his leg. I'm reading from All About Cork, which was picked up by the Red Tops this morning. He said, it went for my calf and managed to rip half of my calf. Now, I won't be too graphic about it at this hour of the morning, but a lot of emergency services kicked in, including the Ballycott and Orange L.I., O que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que .
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E o extra R$0.32 a litro de diesel é put back on. Então, você vai estar olhando a R$2.20 a dia long, talvez higher, para diesel. Não se preocupa. E o petróleo não vai estar lá atrás. Então, eu estou me perguntando se vai dizer que vamos protestar novamente, porque isso é só não on. Eu, eu, eles estão quoting R$1.84 a litro, no momento, em Sônia, quando, realmente, é sobre R$1.89 a litro de garajos, para ser honesto.
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E não há necessidade para isso, mas isso é nada mais gouging e profiteering, para ser honesto. E a ministro de saúde não vai intervenir no isso, por conta, não é minha giga. Mas a data está agora, então, a parquinha de renda em 4 anos. Como eles têm, e eles trouxeram dentro da hospital network, quase 18 milhões de euros na parquinha de public e voluntária hospitais. O parquinha de parquinha de CUH é 2,70 euros.
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E não há necessidade para isso, at all, para ser tão alto. Eu sei que eles vão dizer, sim, mas nós capimos 15 euros a dia. Eu entendi, mas sim, mas é um público serviço, é o Public Health Board. Eu sei, se você tem que pagar por isso, ok, que é bem. Mas não queira a gouging de R$270.000.000, mas não é muito, não particularmente em meu negócio, mas certamente 140% increase em 5 anos, 18 milhões e...
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This is not a profit-making organisation, for God's sake. Did you see that one online, actually? It's been reported by Sky this morning. Some changes to the Eurovision. When I first read this, I thought, oh, anybody that's involved in armed conflict won't be allowed to compete in the Eurovision. That's not such a bad idea. But when I read a more detailed breakdown of it, it's not that at all. It's that anybody that wins the Eurovision that's involved in armed conflict will not be allowed to host the following year's Eurovision. So if this rule were in place last year and say Israel had won, they wouldn't be able to host the Eurovision.
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e ele tem cut short his European and Mexico tour because he has undergone heart surgery so you need time to recuperate from that he's not getting any younger but boy does he love performing it's what he lives for and at the age of 81 I mean if you're a Rod Stewart fan you will know that he is very very energetic on stage he really gives it socks and hopefully he'll make we will make a complete recovery and he'll be back again gigging and many of his fans are thinking of him at this time It's better to have the surgery than not have it and have something missed where you just actually, you know, all of a sudden just kick the bucket.
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We wouldn't want that. You know, talking about pacing, pacemakers and hard stuff, he's not getting a pacemaker, but there is a story that makes the papers this morning about a pacemaker. If you were to think of the world speed land, speed record being broken, you wouldn't think that it would be broken by a JCB, would you? Would you? Mas, mas...
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And then they say, one way to meet people, and this is very true, because if you've got a small doggy, particularly a beautiful dog and a cute dog, everyone will want to talk to you. So it's a good way of meeting people. Also, they say, going to... Was there a particular item of fruit that people say you put into your... Zadima was telling me that story, a particular item of fruit that you put into your shopping basket to indicate that you're single and willing to mingle. Was it a pineapple? . . . .
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I wonder if it would catch on in Aldi or Lidl or the local Super Value.
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Listening to your programme was heartbreaking. It makes me think about the people who brought down the government because of the vat on children's shoes years ago. We need to do it again now more than ever. Antonio Donoghue remembers something. That was a Fine Gael government, I think, wasn't it, at the time, where they tried to put vat on shoes. I mean, trying to work out that shoes weren't a necessity and perhaps were a luxury. A nationwide fund should be set up for all those suffering with this disease. If everyone in the country donates a tenner, some give more, some give less, it would make all of the difference. Yes, the Irish people could come together, but it shouldn't have to take that.
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Heartbreaking listening to Emily Felix. She is so very young. It's such a scandal. I have no words for what these people or own people are going through. If Simon Harris or any of the government's children were diagnosed with an issue like that, they would resolve it fast and funding would be approved. . . . .
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It's an excellent point and it's well made. Can anyone, can't help but think of Vera Toomey's child, Ava, who passed away recently. An absolute disgrace is what is happening here, says Tony, time and time again. How have we reached the stage that Ireland is becoming no place for the Irish? If the child was non-Irish, the government would be running to help. And the sad news is we all know that, whether everybody's willing to admit it or not. Text 0868104106. Katie, good morning.
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Good morning, how are you?
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I'm good. Now you're just back from Madrid for different surgeries and procedures. Is it fair to say you couldn't get here?
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Yep, I couldn't get an appointment for at least two years to see a consultant and that's with my VHI. With VHI?
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With VHI.
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And what's the point having it if it's like two years on a waiting list just to see him, never mind have anything done, or her for that matter?
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Exactly. Exactly. So what happened is a friend of ours went to Spain to get his knee done and I thought head care abroad was all bones and hips because that's all I ever heard of. So he was telling us that there was loads of people on the plane getting other procedures. So I contacted them because I have a prolapse bowel. So I contacted them and they said, this is true of God now, within contacting them and going over to Madrid, it was six weeks. Seis meses e eu fui dung-dusted.
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É said que você tinha três procedimentos.
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Sim. Eu went over porque do prolapso. Mas quando eles fizeram o testo, eles encontram que havia um prolapso bradinho e um grande tear em o bradinho. E ele fez todos os três procedimentos lá e aí.
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Então, desde o tempo que você literalmente picked up o telefone para o terreno, seis meses é o que took.
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Seis meses é o que took. E o que acontece é que você pagou para o seu próprio flighto e accommodation... But the HSE then reimbursed them for the actual operation.
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So you can see why they're attracted to that. They get paid. These would be private hospitals, yeah?
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Yes. So they are a business. Now, they do it very well, but they do it for profit, of course. And when the HSE can't do it here because it's chaotic, they will pay for it to happen overseas, no matter what the work is. Is that right?
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Absolutely. And I highly recommend it. Highly recommend it. They pick you up from the airport, they drop you to your accommodation, they pick you from accommodation, take you to the hospital, stay with you, do all the paperwork, all the translations, everything. They are absolutely amazing.
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What are the hospitals like?
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The hospital is... It's actually fabulous.
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You could describe it state-of-the-art?
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Absolutely. Absolutely. The staff are absolutely amazing. You know, you're treated... like a princess when you get over there. Seriously, they do everything for you and nothing is too much for them.
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And is there any cost to you at all? Like, say, flights and the hotel?
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Yes. You do pay for your own flights and your own accommodation.
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Okay, so how much do you think it costs you?
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Well, you see, it's the time of the year that I took Sim, sim. Sim, sim. Sim, sim.
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Yeah, but they don't tell you that when they have the ads for cheap flights and flight sales and all sorts of stuff like that.
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Oh, yeah.
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And do you have to stay on for a period of time to recover then?
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Yeah, so you have 10 days between getting there and going home. You can't go home until you've had your check-up with the hospital to make sure that you're able to fly.
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You got signed off and you were able to fly after what, a week?
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No, 10 days.
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After 10 days?
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12 days, sorry. Well, I was there because they did the three procedures.
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And do you recommend it to people, say, who are on waiting lists, not necessarily for operations, but even to just see a consultant or a surgeon? Would you recommend it?
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I think it's overkill just for the... If you're going just to be checked up because you've all that... You've paid for your flights and accommodation. Do you know what I mean? But... Once you have a team from your doctor to say that you need this procedure and have sent it to a consultant for you to see them, you are actually eligible to go and get this done. It's different parts of Spain. It all depends on what it is you actually need doing and where the surgeons are at the time.
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There's a bit of research involved. Yeah, I get that.
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Chris is the fellow in Dublin. It's run from Dublin.
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Chris runs it and he's been on you know listen you're all right his name is Chris and he's been on the air with us in the past because we got people sent over quite quickly for work that needed doing and they were brilliant but the question is why do people have to go overseas
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Because they couldn't get it done here.
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porque eles não conseguem ter feito aqui.
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Segundo, third world health system. Meu Deus almighty. Ok. Did you have any thoughts? I think your call was prompted yesterday because of the appalling treatment of the 200 people with Friedrichs ataxia. Am I right?
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Oh, I'm telling you, you know, it's heart-wrenching. Heart-wrenching. I was crying as well listening to him.
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Listening to Craig.
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Oh, my God.
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It's just heart-wrenching. And this is something that everybody can actually apply for, you know.
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I know you have to pay for your flights and accommodation, but to have it all over and done with.
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That's right. That's surgery, but this wouldn't, the treatment abroad scheme wouldn't cover anything like this with regards to Skyclaris, the drug Skyclaris. But I'm going to try and find out this morning, because we're taking legal advice on this, as to whether or not the families and those living and suffering with Friedrichsaxia . . . .
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No problem. You're the best.
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All the best. Take care. Take care. Texto 868 104 106. With 2.8 million people employed in Ireland, we all know the government will not do this for Friedrichsitaxia. But if one euro tax was put on the taxpayers' payslip for a few weeks and call it the Friedrichs tax, I think every Irish man and woman would be happy to do so. It could solve a lot of problems for sick children and adults living with this condition. That's an interesting... People have some very interesting...
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They're nothing but a bunch of useless wasters. Keep them coming. Text 0868 104 106. So where do the families stand? The likes of Craig Cody and because of his son Rory dying and Pawdy now, of course, not well and getting more and more unwell. Emily Felix, who we spoke to yesterday morning on the air. Emma O'Shea, another cork girl, all living with Friedrichs attacks. You know, Emily, I know, is taking a case against the state with regards to the delays in the decision. The decision has been made now.
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And if this decision stands, is there any legal standing for those fighting for access for the Skyclaris to be paid for by the state? Barrister Tim Bracken joins us again this morning. Tim, good morning. Good morning, Neil. Is there a legal standing?
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I don't think so, unfortunately. I mean, I'd love to be able to say yes that there is, but I really don't think so. I mean, people will end up in a high court battle and then there's the whole cost of that. But no, I'm not sure where the state's obligations... Under the Constitution, perhaps?
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Não, não, não, não, não, não, não, não, não, não, there would be a way out I would find that I don't think it would I don't I really don't think somebody would succeed in forcing the state to pay for certain medicines I really don't If they came together as a group it wouldn't be power in numbers that 200 would make a difference There might be a political power Yes a political power for sure but would they find it difficult to get a senior council to take it on Probably not.
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You know, somebody might take it on. I mean, the thing is, if there was a group of them, you see, and I certainly wouldn't recommend any one person on their own to try it. You know what I mean? Because you're very exposed and you're exposed then to an order for costs against you as well. But if there's a collective group, at least, if there was costs, it's against a group of people that can be split up. Would that be called a class action then?
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It could be called a class action because it's on behalf of the class of those persons. Class actions are usually kind of things like people started suing over becoming ill as a result of that kind of thing.
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But my point is, would it not be a class action that you are ill and getting iller because you're denied something that many would deem it to be your right?
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But that would be the class action. It could be a class action because people who are ill, I mean, has the state an obligation to pay for the medicines that are available.
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I would say yes, but I'm not a legal mind. No, I'm not a legal mind.
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I mean, this is very much public law now, and this is the kind of thing that would end up in the Supreme Court after two years of battling.
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But would your case, if you did do it, be strengthened by the fact that Latvia, Spain, Portugal, Luxembourg, Cyprus, Germany, France, Portugal have all licensed this and are paying for the public purse?
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Yes, and there may be some European... elementos in it that could be brought in. But it could... I mean, you're talking about now, as I say, public law as opposed to private law. And there's a... It's a major legal step and to try and force the state to pay for medicines for a certain condition. But, I mean, if they did group together, I think... They should. I mean, all the people who are suffering from this disease, and even people suffering from other diseases who have been denied help from the state to pay for the medicines.
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I mean, now that it's kind of out in the open and people are talking about it, maybe they would all get together under one umbrella group and explore the possibilities of bringing a case against the state.
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Ok, é food for thought and I'd be interested to see if maybe that's being planned by them to come together. I think they're going to wait for a fortnight to see if the HSE overturns the recommendation not to pay. So the next couple of weeks we'll see that.
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Well, the more publicity there is now, like your programme yesterday, the more people are getting together and the more people are talking about it. I mean, you know, politicians, they back down when the going gets tough.
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They take the temperature, yeah, they do, they do.
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Yeah, you know, in the same way that they backed down against, you know, the people who, the mob rude who were protesting on the streets there some months ago about the cost of fuel. Yeah. And they reduced that.
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Interesting use of terms. Mob rule.
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Oh, I thought that was mob rule. I mean, they caved into mob rule. I mean, these are people who blocked roads. I mean, a friend of mine was coming from Waterford to a wedding in Cork and couldn't E aí E aí E aí E aí Oh, it works.
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It works. But, I mean, it was just the way they went about it.
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Just one or two other things this morning, if I let you go. A couple of days ago, then, we were talking with Sarah Jane Fox, whose son Craig is in hospital, because a car with eight teenagers, they could have been as young as 14, Ploued into him going the wrong way. And much of the chatter on air was, will there be injury claims? And will, like for instance, will all of those who are carried in the stolen car be allowed to sue the car that was involved in the collision with them or the car that they were in as passengers?
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Could you unpack that?
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No, I don't think they'd get off the starting blocks of that because to allow yourself to be carried in a stolen car knowing that it's stolen is a crime.
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And certainly I can't see the courts rewarding you or compensating you for any injury that you suffered as a result of you committing a crime. Did you check that to see if that had ever happened before? I don't think it has happened before. I have not come across it. I have not. In my memory, I'm not aware of it. But...
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I can't see them, no, but whereas the man who was injured, the innocent party, I mean, he would be able to sue, but he would have to sue the MIBI, which is the Motor Insurance Bureau of Ireland, because obviously that car was uninsured, it was stolen. And so therefore, when there's no insurance policy, that's an organisation which is set up which was set up in 1964, and we all pay into it, all motorists do, because there's a levy on your insurance policy which pays into it on an annual basis, but it's there.
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If you're hit by a hit-and-run driver or if you're hit by an uninsured person, you can still sue, and the MIBI takes up the position of the person who would have been insured had they been insured.
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Sim, não, mas que, assim, que é ótimo para alguém que é inocente ao todo, mas que a pessoa que está insurada no carro, que foi insurada por o senhor, o senhor?
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Eu não acho que sim. Eu, assim, se um burglary breaks into seu casa no meio do dia e trips sobre o cacho e injures o seu, pode ele suar você?
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I sincerely hope not.
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I don't think so. I don't think so. No, I don't think so. Because, now, it would be different if you had sort of traps in your house to trap burglars and stuff like that. They might be able to sue you for that. No, no. Why?
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Because I impeded them doing their job, is it? Robbing me?
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Yeah, yeah. Bom, não, mas se você já tinha, eu não sei, talvez você já tinha rostridas ou talvez snakes, eu não sei, eu não sei. Unusual dangers, você não sabe, mas, então, talvez, talvez, talvez, talvez, talvez, talvez, talvez, talvez, talvez, talvez, talvez, talvez, talvez, talvez, talvez, talvez, talvez, I mean, it's your own fault. Appreciate that.
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I have another one for you before I let you go, because you have been very much front and centre with regards to the VAT reduction. I see a letter. Was that to the Irish Times, actually? We were talking about the nearly 700 million annually, the bonanza they're getting with regards to the VAT reduction, is it?
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Bom, sim, e a VAT redução, eles gavem a VAT redução de 13.5% a 9%, mas isso é para o benefício de nós, os consumidores, porque nós pagamos a VAT.
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But it hasn't been passed on. I mean, have you experienced any drop in the prices of anywhere?
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Ah, come on now, Tim Bracken. You're an intelligent man. You know, don't tell me that you thought for any second that the prices would drop on menus and eateries, hotels, bars, takeaways, hair salons.
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And that's why I'm apoplectic that the government actually did it again. They did it during COVID because that was meant to attract customers back into restaurants and hotels and bars and stuff like that.
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E não foi passada. E agora eles estão fazendo isso novamente. E só em light de o outro tema que começaram a falar sobre, a medicina for Friedrich's Taxi e tudo isso, e a coisa que eles estão fazendo isso.
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O governo agora está gastando cerca de R$ 700 mil a ano com esse VAT redução. E isso é de nada. Eu quero dizer, o público, o consumidor, o pessoal que faz o VAT, como você ou eu, nós estamos não conseguindo o benefício.
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Mas não é uma redução para o salvar ou ajudar hospitais businesses?
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Sim, porque era meant a reduzir prices e, portanto, a reduzir prices e, portanto, a flock in for meals and overnight stays and stuff like that. That's what it was. That's what a vat reduction. It's the same. Just to use the analogy, look at what we were talking about earlier, the reduction in excise duty on petrol. The government reduced the excise duty. If the garage owners... Não pass that on to the public. There would have been a revolution.
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Oh, interesting point. It's the same thing.
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It's exactly the same thing. Yeah. It's exactly the same thing. Yeah.
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You think that there's a legal challenge there?
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Well, no, I think it's a role for the revenue commissioners to start investigating the hospitality industry. OK. Because if they're continuing to charge VAT at 13.5% when actually the rate is 9%, that's a fraud.
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But they're not doing that. But what they are doing is they're charging 9%, which means that their costs are lower and they haven't passed it on, you're saying?
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Não, não, não, não, não, não.
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Então, o que eles deveriam fazer, o que eles deveriam fazer, eles deveriam reduzir a preços para um dia e dizer, olha, there's a vat reduction, mas, infelizmente, a preços have gone up. Então, porque a preços have gone up, nós estamos colocando a preços de preços de baixo. Mas, nós estamos colocando a preços de 9%.
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Então, um tipo de gestão, mas quando há não at all.
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Mas, é exatamente o mesmo, como se garage owners não passam o excise cut no petróleo.
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It's the same thing. You would equate the excess reduction being passed on to the customer as VAT being passed. Good point.
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Excellent point. Covered a lot of ground as always, Tim Bracken. Thanks so much for taking the call this morning.
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Great to have your advice, Tim Bracken, barrister at law. If you have any kind of legal questions in the coming weeks or months, don't be afraid to bang us off an email, neil at redfm.ie and we'll happily check in with Tim Bracken again in the future on your behalf. Back after the break, text 0868104106.
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He was deemed to be 44% liable because he wasn't wearing a seatbelt and because of the knowledge he shouldn't have been that he should have had that the car was uninsured at the time. And the award was made against the driver of the car from Mahan and also against the Motor Insurance Bureau of Ireland. So it may well be a different case entirely, say, for instance, if it was a stolen car. Tim is saying if that car was stolen, you would be of the knowledge that it was stolen. On that basis, you wouldn't be able to claim. But in this particular, apparently it had no insurance and it was one of, you know, how many did I say was in the car at the time?
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Seven. e ele foi, a front-seat passenger, died in the crash, mas o driver não foi insurado. E naquela base, ele foi contra o Motor Insurance Bureau de Irlanda, e ele foi um award de R$2.5 milhão em compensação em 2005. Bem, se eu come across outro caso, eu me lembro de um outro caso, não relacionado com a história de House of Horror em Cork, em Cork, lá em Gratton Hill, com um dos anos atrás, com um outro caso, com um outro caso, . . . . . .
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We need to stand up for these kids. Let the country stop. The 25th of August is the date. Am I right in thinking that?
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You are right. There is a chance at that stage that the HSE, maybe with political pressure, will decide to ignore the refusal and to grant it.
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Can we not, for our children, do something before the 25th of August for these children?
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And let the country come together and stand up for this. It is shocking. Let them take their kids to A&E and mind them for the day while they go out protesting, while the whole country goes out protesting for these kids.
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They have no idea what they're doing to these families.
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You're very upset. You're sounding very upset about it.
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I am. I mean, these are kids. These are families. Life is hard enough for them.
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I mean, can you imagine on a daily basis getting up doing that? I'm lucky I have healthy kids. I don't have this problem.
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But I could imagine. I mean, you walk around there with people and you see kids in wheelchairs and you think, God, how lucky you are.
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And living on this on a daily basis and you have the government calling a shot like that, that is disgraceful. You named out yesterday the money that has been wasted on
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It's appalling. It's just appalling.
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It's absolutely shocking. Let's leave it at Simon Harris's words. Let me be quite clear. Let us be quite clear to the government. We love our children.
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Let's stand up to the government.
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No one's ever held, it's an interesting text earlier on, where no one within any of these departments, and a lot of them civil servants and public servants, none of them are ever held accountable for massive waste and squandering of public money. Whether it's 1.5 million for a security hut at Leinstra House, or the Irish Rail IT system that was recently scrapped, but they had already spent 50 million on it. There's no head on the block. No, there isn't.
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Se você perguntar a pergunta, você não vai ter uma resposta, mas eles podem ter uma resposta para isso.
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E eles podem ter uma resposta para isso. Eu espero que isso não tenha acabado, você sabe?
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Eu realmente do. Então, eu. Então, eu. Porque nós precisamos, para as famílias, para o que eles estão indo, para pensar que é um clique de virão. Sim, nós vamos approve. Ok.
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Ok, bom, listen...
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Mas, por favor, eu vou perguntar as pessoas de Irlanda, estande-se para essas famílias. A vida é tão difícil.
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All you politicians, look after your own people or move on and find another job. It's disgraceful. Meetings after meetings, all hiding behind one another, making this man wait another two weeks now. It's horrible. It's cruel. Give the people the drug. There's plenty money around. I'm a Cork mother and I'm disgusted yet again with the state of this country. Pa says, is Ireland as rich as they say we are? Are we being sold a pup regarding the finances? We never seem to have money when we, the people, really need it. Se o HSE tem o poder de dizer quem vive ou quem dies em este país, então se retirar de ele, ou qualquer outro público ou civil serviço body que possui esse tipo de poder.
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Padraig O'Sullivan, o TD, é certo. Legislation e sistemas em este país não fit for purpose e precisam ser overhauled e updated com o melhor interesse do povo.
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Texto 868 104 106. People can keep complaining about the appalling treatment of this government or on its own people, but until people actually vote differently, nothing will change, says Anthony. Interestingly, on different topics this morning, you know, we were talking to Tim Bracken with regards to VAT going down from 13% to 9%.
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Has anybody out there ever actually seen an example of costs coming down because the VAT rate was dropped by 4% in hospitality, the food aspect of hospitality I'm talking about now, and in nail salons and in barbershops and in hairdressers? Did anybody ever go in and find that the prices had actually come down? I'd like to know. Text 0868-104-106. Pick up the phone on 0818-114-106. We'll pick it up after 10. Thanks for now.
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O que é isso?
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Yeah, I really felt like that. I sent him the text yesterday and I wasn't able to come on, but I know a lot of people made the points that I wanted to make. But I think it's shame on them because they're always making promises and we never keep them. And hasn't that man, Mr Cody, enough on his plate?
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por qualquer outro cause e por qualquer outro body de diferentes países. E é quase um shame o que eles estão fazendo em Irlanda. É um shame.
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E você acha que políticos, desde o Taoiseach, realmente têm o poder para se envolver em isso?
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What's the point in having a HSE or committees or a drug committee if you don't listen to their rulings? Do you think that they should, from the point of view of the compassion for the families and the sufferers, overrule them?
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Definitely. They should. They should. Definitely. In cases like that, I was dating a man and he had a taxi as well, but he wasn't born with it. No, he got it through a car accident that he had.
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Então, eu não sei, ele não tem que ter muito ruim, eu não sei.
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Mas se é Friedrichs ataxia, ele fica gradualmente pior.
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Sim, sim, definitivamente.
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E você vive, eu hate dizendo isso, mas é a realidade, você vive uma vida mais forte. Sim, sim.
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Sim, sim. Sim, sim. Sim, sim. Sim, sim. Sim, sim. Sim, sim. Sim, sim. Sim, sim. Sim, sim. Sim, sim. Sim, sim.
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And I just feel, oh my God, like they make promises and they never keep them. Okay.
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Yeah, that's going to be all too common. Thanks, Lisa. Appreciate it. Much obliged to you. You can also send a voice note if you can't jump on air. If you're not available to come on air, send a voice note. It's the same tax line, but on WhatsApp, 0868 104 106.
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The taxpayers will be footing the bill for that child.
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Pay for the child's medicine and all the children that need it.
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There's enough money there. Eles trabalham para as taxas, para as pessoas de Irlanda. Eu não acho que as taxas, não, vão ter um problema com 200 filhos que precisam de medicação que precisam de mal. Eu acho que se você botar a voto, lads, botar um pól, você preferir Zelensky ganhar mais 150 milhões ou você preferir os 200 filhos que ganhar medicação? Botar esse pól aí e ver os resultados de volta.
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Everyone stay at home. Don't take a holiday day. No tax to be paid. Full stop. Keep those coming. Text 0868 104 106. Pick up the phone on 0818 104 106. We have other topics to deal with this morning. Absolutely. But I don't want to deny people an opportunity to have their own voice heard or their own thoughts heard for that matter. John, good morning.
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Morning, Neil. Did you have a question as to who makes the final decision, is it?
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Yes. So far, all we're looking at is the HSE, which is only a logo. We need a name for the person who's actually, and a face if possible, to the person who's making this decision.
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Well, one of those was Professor Michael Barry. Don't personalise this now. He's a consultant clinical pharmacologist. And it was part of that conversation where it was deemed that this would be poor value for money.
47:41
Oh, so he has no work on that child's life?
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Well, it sounds very cruel to me to use words like that, I have to say.
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But that's the bones of it. So he has no value on this child's life or any other child that may... Well, I'm asking...
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No, don't personalise it now because there was a lot of other aspects to it that were spoken about, including the fact that the cost would be £116 million over five years and the available budget that they have is limited to £30 million. So the gap's too big.
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Yeah, but hold on a while now. We've had politicians, including our own Taoiseach, who went to the end of the world to try and save these two children.
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You're personalising it again now, John.
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I don't want you doing that. But you have to, Neil. There's a child's life at stake. Why wouldn't you personalise it?
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Because it's unkind, it's unfair.
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It's encroaching on a family's grief.
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So let's not go there. I'm not related to that family in any shape or form. I don't even know the people.
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But you can put one's life above another.
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That's why there is an opportunity at this stage that it could be reversed in a fortnight's time.
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Oh yeah, it may be. That's kicking it down the road. We've seen so many decisions made by the HSE down through the years about spina bifida and other things. We have a shipload of people, unfortunately, in our country who are waiting with weighted breath to try and get a treatment for their children.
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Now, that's a very interesting point because I can back that up with numbers and I'm sure you can as well. Quite significant. The 24,000 children who were overdue disability assessments, never mind surgery. This is just to get seen.
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Yeah, but listen, to put it on a light on the horse, they can't get their teeth done, never mind get something to save their life.
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Well, something as serious as scoliosis and spina bifida. There are hundreds of children, despite broken promises that go back nearly 10 years, that a child wouldn't wait any longer than four months for spinal surgery. Yet these hundreds and hundreds of children still... And it's irreversible because the physical deterioration is rapid.
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Oh yeah, it's just crazy. But should we... Harris told us that he was going to save the world in four months. Yeah.
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We saw where we got with that. There's all the same promises that they got. And people will still vote for them. I can't get it.
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Okay, okay.
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These people need to be taken out of our dahlia and disposed of because they're absolutely useless. They'll have no benefit to the country.
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Well, the money could be found, right? And there are two people that could find it in the morning if they wish to do so. One is the Taoiseach and the other is the Minister for Health. They could find it.
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Mas é a governança que o governo vai ser assim, que se alguém que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que o que
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It's appalling. I mean, I'm not disagreeing with you. It's absolutely appalling. And the fact that many other European Union countries are paying for this drug, I've listed them out all the way across Europe, as far away as, say, for instance, Latvia, as closer to home as France and Portugal and Spain.
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Yeah, yeah. E aí você tinha um plano que eu senti um texto dizendo que o homem deveria ir embora, então nós poderíamos ter o tempo para ir embora. Não pensando que ele ou ela iria ir embora em algum lugar também.
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Sim, bom ponto. Bem-vindo. Ok. Obrigado. Obrigado, John. Texto 868-104-106. Sheila, bom dia.
51:25
Bom dia, Neil. Você sabe, nós estamos falando sobre os filhos, mas eu estou muito preocupada sobre esse homem de saúde, sua física e sua mentalidade.
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You know what I mean, what he has to go through?
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He's worn out. Yeah, I heard him yesterday. You heard him. He's exhausted.
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I heard him myself and my heart went outward. If anything happens to that man, what's his children going to do? Or, you know, he goes visit his wife. What's going to happen then? So that could be another life that the government will have blood on their hands for. You know, I mean, I just can't imagine what that man is going through. I'd say he get no sleep by night.
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Well, he was talking to me yesterday, he was describing, and this wasn't in any kind of looking for sympathy way, he gets up at 5am in the morning to go to work. Yes.
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And this is on his mind 24-7. So he's got to be affected by it. I mean, we, the Irish people, are affected by his story, not a mind, him. So something has got to be done, because I fear for that man's life.
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I really do. Mentally and physically.
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His wife is very unwell with Huntington's and is in full-time care in Dublin. I know that. I know, yeah. His first son, lovely lad Rory, passed away. Yeah. So, like, you can imagine his man... Pauly is his second son, who is rapidly deteriorating. I'm just reminding people in case they may have missed yesterday.
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Oh, I know, Neil. I know, yeah. But, like, it's just... It's just unbelievable.
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How do our governments sleep in their beds by night?
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They have money for everyone. But I'm just worried about all the children. But this man has really got to me. I can't stop thinking about him.
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And we mustn't stop thinking about them. We mustn't. No.
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And something has to be done.
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Like, I put it up there last week with Tom's school team. They were walking for pride. And I did say, it's a pity he couldn't organise a walk with that man. And his wife got back to me to say, if that man wants us to walk with him, we'll walk with him. But I want people to, you know, to make this commitment and we'll all join in, like we did with farmers and the suckers.
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Yeah. Well, I don't want to overly complicate this, but there's still a couple of weeks where the HSE bosses, in two weeks' time, will discuss the drug group's recommendation not to fund it. And at that stage... Yeah, in two weeks' time, yeah.
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And at that stage... Surely the people can, you know, demand for it to be reversed.
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So... If you're not doing your job in the morning, your boss would fire you, I know, yourself inside. So they're not doing their job in my eyes.
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Well, because they're not self-employed. They have state pensionable jobs for life.
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I know, but they're working for us.
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Yeah, but I'll tell you one thing. It's a different scenario entirely between what goes on in the public sector and the private sector with regards to accountability. That's one thing I've learned down through the years, I can tell you.
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Yes. Yeah, but it's just, you know, we're all talking about the children, but this man has just, he's really got to me.
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O que é? O que é? O que é? O que é? O que é? O que é? O que é? O que é? O que é? O que é? O que é? O que é? O que é?
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And that's what it is. No compassion.
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Okay, you're the best. Thanks, Sheila. Appreciate the call. Text 0868104106. Pick up the phone on 0818104106. As I say, I've got other stuff to do, obviously, this morning, but I don't want to take from the fact that people are incensed. I want to have their voices heard. So just quickly, Robert, good morning.
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Morning, Neil. If other European... Okay, go ahead. Go ahead.
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I just think, okay, it's sort of obvious that we're part of the European Union.
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Other countries in the European Union are doing this.
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We're obliged to copy other countries. I think we should be obliged to do the same as other countries if we're part of the Union.
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That means that there is a case to be made for the European courts.
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Yes.
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100%. Or else, if we don't throw the line in, we shouldn't be in the Union. Why are we going to be different than the other countries?
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I know of nine European countries.
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Europe will solve this problem, Neil. Europe will solve this problem for that man and force them to do it.
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That's a very interesting point.
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I think if we're part of a union, if we're part of any group, if you don't want to be part of the group, you know what I mean? We're not doing what our own members are doing.
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So if it's the European Union, it's all for one and one for all, isn't it? As Robin Hood used to say.
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Yes, we're getting the benefit from Europe. Now we need to tour the lane and do good for this man.
56:31
Thanks, Robert. Hope all is well. Thanks for taking the call. Texto 868-104-106. Somebody also on another topic of conversation is going back to the issue involving the crash up in the M50 and doesn't necessarily agree that the passengers carried in a stolen car wouldn't be able to claim. This texter says, yes, all seven passengers will be able to claim off the NIBI for their injuries as the state will have to prove that they were aware the car was stolen at the time. And that's next to impossible. The driver will be prosecuted, but the passengers won't.
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Somebody's suggesting the passengers will be able to claim for injuries because it would be impossible to prove that they knew that the car was stolen. I don't know about that. There's a lot of social media footage and videos that were being shared live on Facebook Live and TikTok and things like that of these characters in the car at the time. They're all very much underage, but your opinion is that they would be able to claim... So, from a legal perspective, I was told that they won't. But keep them coming anyway. Text 0868-104-106. Pick up the phone on 0818-104-106. Call's on the way. Get on to Prenderville now.
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Ironically, I work at the Births, Deaths and Marriages office. And her daughter was born in the Jack Lynch Tunnel in 2009. What about you?
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Fair play treasures. You just don't have to get on with it really, don't you?
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Well, it's not something you can put on pause anyway. Go ahead.
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No, no. Well, I was getting pains on the 19th of December that morning. So it was a big freeze in 2010.
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So we decided, right, we'll bring the bag, bring the dog. And my daughter, we're going to Christie's in Balarnie for lunch. Remember, they would do an old car every day.
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That's right, yeah.
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Yeah. So we went out there and I wasn't very hungry. So I said, look, I'll get a child's portion. I sat down, I ate it and I said to Shane, I said, oh my God, Shane, will you hurry on eating? He said, Jesus, there's no rush, girl. Calm down. I said, well, there is. My water's just after breaking. So he went, okay.
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Sitting at the table.
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At the table, yeah. We were sitting down eating. So I went into the bathroom. He finished his dinner, of course. I'm sure men, bellies come first. Did he really? Oh, he did, yeah. He ate it.
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It didn't take a tap out of him. There was no kind of excitement or worry.
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He didn't kind of kick in. Where's the bag? Where's the car?
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No, nothing.
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No, but like what we did then was we got into the car, rang my sister and met her in Blackpool, double parked on the inside Blackpool shopping centre, and this is Christmas time now, so there was cars everywhere. Security guards ran over and said, you can't park there, you can't park there. I said, look, I'm in labour, water's after braking, and my husband was walking the dog down the road for business while we were waiting for our sister. Two guards came over.
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Why were you waxing? Why did you just go to the CUMH?
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Porque, sure, look, the contractions weren't that bad. I had the dog, and I had my daughter.
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Oh, your sister was going to take the dog and your daughter. Your husband is as cool as a cucumber and goes off walking the dog.
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But, like, sure, he just had to do business. And the two guards came over and said to us, oh, look, you'll have to move the car. It's Christmas period. It's busy. I said, look, my water's after breaking. They looked at me. E eu olhei para eles e ele disse, você está em seu próprio? Eu disse, não, meu husband está walking the dog. O look que eu tinha, era como o Bezley-Hillbillis. Do you know o que eu quero dizer? Foi just ridículo, quando você pensa em volta.
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Então, o dinner came first, e o walking the dog came second.
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Sim, mas foi quando eu estava esperando para o meu irmão. Do you know o que eu quero dizer? Sim, eu quero dizer. Sim, eu quero dizer. Sim, eu quero dizer. Sim, eu quero dizer. Sim, eu quero dizer. Sim, eu quero dizer.
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But they didn't do me until half nine that night because I was after having my dinner.
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So it was just all dragged out for the whole thing. But anyway, my twin ladies were born, hence the house, five nine and five eleven.
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And how old are they now?
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They'll be 16 in December. That's a great story.
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I bet you if I was talking to your husband, he'd even remember the dinner that he had in Christie's, I'd say.
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Oh, he probably would and he'd probably say it was lovely. But that was the old Christie's years ago. You know, you go in and get a carvery and it's not there now anymore, you know.
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They used to do a great thing out in Christie's years ago where they served you a whole chicken on the table on a big board and I think you carved it yourself. Do they still do that? And then they had all of the sides, all of the vegetables with it and it was kind of, you know, help yourself then at your own table. That was a great idea.
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Sim, mas não, mas o food é tudo maravilhoso, do you know o que eu quero dizer? Você não pode ir embora com isso. Mas, enfim, nós tivemos que ir embora, porque o church era um grande frio que ano, do you know o que eu quero dizer? E nós não conseguimos voltar, porque nós vivemos em Castellanes, e um pouco distraído.
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Listen to me, it's a great story and I like to reward people who put smiles on faces. We've got wonderful family passes for various tourist attractions right across the county. At the moment we're doing Cork City Jail, stepping back in time up at Strawberry Hill, Convent Avenue on Sunday as well. Would you fancy one of those for the family?
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Yes, be lovely. They were actually in Kilmainham at the weekend.
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Oh, well, listen, we have our own Cork's version of Kilmainham, so it's going to be a wonderful day for them.
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They really will enjoy it and they're a perfect age for it, 15 and 16, because they'd be very inquisitive as to what life was like back then. It's the original cells and the corridors and there's great stories. Have you ever been there?
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We have been there many times, yeah, years ago, like, but you know, they were up in Dublin for the Camogie final at the weekend, so they went up to Kilmainham as well.
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Ah, well, listen, if you've been there once, that's fine. I can give you something else, actually. We can send them, we've got loads of different places. Ballyhas is a great spot to go to. I'll give you back to Viv, right? And you can pick something off the list that will attract you and your two daughters. Have a good one. Take care.
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All right, Neil.
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Thanks for taking the call. Thanks, Fiona. Text 0868 104 106. We have lots of them to share, so we'll sort everybody out. You know, we're talking about food, actually, over the last few days, and again there with regards to Daddy wanted to finish dinner before he went to the hospital, and that's a good story in itself. . . . .
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I'm a grown man. Anyway, I'm going to have to venture to the north side for some of these fritters when I'm back from Denmark, says Denmark Dave. I hereby noted in my book of important chippers, it's next on my list. And of course Denmark Dave, as a regular contributor, he came all the way back for the closure of Lennox's back in the day.
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They're around for years and years... They are. And they sound awful... Forgive me. They sound awful to me. I'm sure they're very tasty for those that like them. I think Hayden's on Blarney Street used to do fritters about 60 years ago, says Donal. Never knew we could get them in Cork chippers, says Pete. I thought it was a Waterford thing. Except down in Waterford, they call them scallops. And not too far from Waterford, in Yall, they also call them scallops. And on births and what have you My mum already had three boys And was desperate for a girl Everyone she met kept telling her She was sitting right for a girl I mean, I suppose people could tell.
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I mean, you might sometimes put these down to old wives' tales, but people knew a lot back in the day. So she was convinced herself that that's what she was having, a girl. When the baby was born, they brought her in to see my brother and she absolutely screamed the place down because she convinced that she'd had a girl. The next day, she actually left the hospital with them saying, they've swapped my girl. They've swapped my girl. My granddad had to go back and collect him later on. I hope you can follow that. I think there was confusion and even after the birth she was believing that she had the wrong baby. My mum had seven of us kids and back in the day when you could get lovely fresh mackerel from the man who went around the street selling fish she would batter the fish and give it to us for dinner with scallops.
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She only had an ordinary chip basket to do all of this but somehow... No idea how they did it back in the day, she managed to cook enough to feed all seven of us together, at the same time, from one fish chip basket. And Neil, she would fillet the fish herself, so we were always guaranteed no bones. I just love those people who have an opportunity to reminisce and be a little bit on the nostalgic side with different stories. Text 0868 104 106. I'll do this now, actually, if you don't mind, because it's busy and we'll get as many calls as we can.
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Anne-Marie! Hello.
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How's things down Middleton Way? The home of whisky, actually. Big time. Right? Yeah. Have you been to the distillery? Have you done the tour?
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Oh, yeah. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, we did it. I actually came back from Australia when my husband was the first stop. Why?
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Why was that?
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Oh, sure, he loves it. He loves whisky. He loves a black barrel. Sure, we met out in Australia 10 years ago.
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Met him in an Irish pub. I was working there. He was drinking there.
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You were on either side of the bar, so, right?
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That's right. Yeah, yeah. So, there was a bit of Cork-Ginney rivalry initially, but...
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And how did that relationship kick off? Were you serving in Pines and Oz or something?
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I was. But I was. Yeah, yeah.
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That's how it all kicked off. And was it anything in particular that he said or did you just like the look of him or what?
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I actually liked the look of him and he was really, he's a really happy, smiley chap. I actually thought he was so quiet and nice. He just came in, had a few pints left and I thought he must be married.
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But he wasn't.
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Firstly, what's your husband's name? Jamie. And what was Jamie doing in Australia?
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He was working in construction. He was just after moving to Perth from Sydney. And he actually was planning to move home the following year. But I kept him there for another while longer. Okay, okay.
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Was it your intention to come home at some stage? Because it clearly was his.
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Yeah, I was. I went out to my two sisters and I planned to stay for a year or two, but I always wanted to come home. So I met him not long after getting there and we just settled quite quickly, enjoyed life over there. I spent seven years there, he spent 14 and yeah, came home.
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I moved to Kilkenny and we've set up life there now.
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Yeah, yeah.
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Yeah, so I'm actually in Middleton now where I, as we speak, just got to Middleton to see my appearance because I come down once or twice. Kind of, I try to get down as often as I can. We have twin boys now, Tyg and Cahill, they're three. So I try to get down as much as I can.
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Ah, lovely. That's lovely. That's a great story.
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That's a lovely story. Is Jamie a whisky lover?
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He loves it, yeah. He likes whisky. He's always loved it, yeah.
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Does he have any bit of a... You know, there's people... I mean, I don't drink anything like that, for sure, but I certainly have some nice bottles of unopened whisky. They're more ornamental than anything else, you know, that kind of way?
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Yeah, we have that. Yeah, so when we met then, he kind of was really looking into the Jemison Middleton because he's never been, so... Quando we got back, like, you'd think the usual thing to do when you get back from Ireland is to meet the parents. And, you know, your first holiday back, he's like, can we do a tour? Can we do a tour? So we did the tour, came up to mum and dad. And ever since then, any time we were kind of travelling back and forth, he always picked up a bottle, like a red breast. So we have them now.
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So he put the Middleton Distillery ahead of a visitor to his parents. Well, that's charming.
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Yeah, yeah, he's kind of got the two of them done the one day, but yeah.
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Yeah. It's amazing men this morning. Another fellow was having his dinner out at Christie's when his wife's waters broke, but still wanted to finish his dinner first. Men are strange individuals sometimes. No, the reason I'm asking, because as part of Cork on a Fork, there's a premium Cork whisky tasting happening in the Fountain Bar on Saturday afternoon. I'm not sure if there are still tickets available. A lot of these are sold out, but... It would be a great opportunity for him to go and there's some fabulous whiskeys going to be shared there for tasting and great stories.
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I think that, you know, I think they'd be right up his alley. What do you think?
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I would. I definitely would. Look, he works really hard. He's building our house at the moment. He's trying to run a business and he's a real family man and he deserves a break.
69:49
Ah, that's a lovely story. And how far along is he with the house, Jamie?
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We're about six months off now, about six months off, so yeah, it's getting plastered now at the minute, windows are coming on Tuesday, so that'll be a good step.
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How much other work is he doing, incidentally?
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An awful lot of it, yeah, because he works in construction, so thankfully he's able to do a lot of it. Mas isso só takes up a lot of time. Do you know when you have smallies? Mas it's worth it.
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Well, listen, you've got a good guy there, that's for sure. I do. He's got a good woman. He's got a good woman. Okay, so Laurie O'Dwyer from the Whiskey Chats podcast will be there. There'll be some of Cork's finest and rarest whiskeys, even a whiskey dating back to the 1970s from the old Hewitt's Distillery on Watercourse Road, for those that will remember it. She's handpicked every bottle from his, sorry, he's handpicked every bottle from his personal collection. And there'll be great stories behind each of them. And, you know, there'll be some nice tasting and it's going to be a wonderful experience for everybody who likes their whisky.
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I couldn't think of a nicer person to give it to than Jamie. He deserves a break. He does.
70:54
He does, yeah. OK, well, let's... Thank you so much.
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Let him know the good news, all right?
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I will. He'll be delighted. Thanks a million.
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Thanks a lot. Well, thanks for listening, even though you're up in Kilkenny. Take care, Anne-Marie. All the best, originally from Middleton, now living in Kilkenny. So that'll be nice. Jamie will enjoy that. And I know that Anne-Marie will as well. A couple of tickets for them, for all whisky lovers who'll be inside in the Fountain Bar on Saturday afternoon as part of Cork on a Fork. So they're sipping as well as eating, as the fellow says. Keep them coming. Text 0868-104-106. Pick up the phone on 0818-104-106. I've got some very interesting emails, actually, that I've had for a few days.
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And I want to get through some of them. We'll pick up on the first one, hopefully, if I have an opportunity after the break.
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Get on to Prenderville now.
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0818-104-106. The Neil Prenderville.
71:45
Okay, I'd love to get your thoughts on this. Thank you, Anne, who sent me a lengthy email over the weekend. She says, I was listening, actually, it was probably on Monday after a lot of the calls with regards to, you know, teens and stolen cars and what have you. I've been listening to your radio, Dear Niall, I've been listening to your radio programme about young people getting out of control. Here's my Toppensworth. . . . .
72:24
It really is that simple. Now, this is through the eyes of a former teacher, seeing stressed parents dropping off the kids and constantly on the run. It's all to do with both parents working. It really is that simple. Now, don't for one minute think I'm trying to lay more guilt on mothers. I am not. But when mothers started working full time, the family unit quite simply fell apart. That's a fact, not a criticism. . . .
73:09
Now, property is so expensive that young people are forced to live far away from family a lot of the time. I noticed over the years that children were becoming more and more uncontrollable in the classroom. And parents were getting more and more stressed out and more and more hot-headed. . . .
73:43
E se eu sou honesto, eu diria que há um pouco de bebida de bebida em homens, em uma falsa belief que isso vai aliviar o stress. Você pode ver isso em os pais dropping-off de crianças, principalmente em um dia de dia. Friadas foram os dias, também, quando eu recebi mais mensagens sobre o trabalho de no trabalho. . . . . .
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E aí . . . .
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Ainda, muitos irmãos estão trabalhando agora, ou acham que o seu retirement é um pouco de me time. Então, hoje os filhos não são just não given o tempo e a nurture que eles precisam. Nile, a estranha coisa é que muitos irmãos me disseram que, given a escolha, se o dinheiro era não objeto, eles dão dar trabalho ou optar para part-time trabalho. . . . . . .
76:00
So maybe check your phone, see how many times a day you spend on it and invest that time instead in your child. Keep up the good work, Suzanne from Douglas, former teacher who had a lot to say in that email and I've read it out in its entirety. A lot of the time I would have to cut back on emails, but all of that needs to be said. And she's talking about not wanting to be critical or lay guilt on parents who are working. But I think that... People who are listening to that who can identify with that probably feel guilty as a consequence.
76:31
And that's unfortunate because at this stage there's no way in the wide earthly world that anybody could survive and live in Ireland on one wage unless you're in a serious kick-ass job with huge money. But if the average working wage is say between 42, 44 and 45 grand and you're suggesting that one parent goes out to work Forget about it. Like, forget about it. Look, look, what's a house now? 400 grand? 450? Maybe even higher for a three or perhaps, if you're lucky, a four-bedroom semi?
77:05
So, it's just impossible. And there are consequences. And I think, to an extent, if we jump in there, I think that Anne from Douglas... There are consequences as a result of that with regards to parenting. Yeah, for sure.
77:16
Yeah, unfortunately. And I mean, I think even a few years back, mums could work part-time, but even that's gone now. Everybody has to be, like both parents have to be working full-time. And I feel sorry for the generation coming up, buying houses and having kids. I'd say there will be very little kids born, unfortunately.
77:35
Births are down in Ireland. And the days of big families and lots of children are gone. It's more likely to be one to two children. But a lot of this started earlier in the week when we were talking and Seamus did a Vox on it at the time with regards to are the summer holidays too long for parents who are working?
77:52
Yeah, they are, I suppose, in one sense. There's fur and against it. I do feel they need the break. I mean, they're absolutely loving being off. We all love the kind of slowness of it. But on the flip side of it, it's impossible to keep them entertained for eight weeks. Like you're, you know, you're booking camps and that all costs money. And then they're only up until lunchtime. And I know there's backlash saying, oh, they're your kids. You have to mind them, whatever. But there is that pull up to work that you have to work and then you
78:18
E que é a base em que as pessoas bookam seus filhos para campos. Então, multiple campos, ela diz. E a mais longa a camp, a melhor é.
78:26
Sim, eu tinha um, eu acho que era 9h-3h, antes de ir embora, e isso foi incrível. Quando ela diz que eles não estão no army...
78:34
I mean, that means that they're being dragged out of bed in the early mornings to go to a camp when really summer is about lazing and lying in.
78:41
I know, and you have to find the balance. I mean, we didn't do camps every week. We went away for two weeks and they're having a lazy week this week. But unfortunately, you do have to do the camps to fill some weeks. I mean, eight weeks is a long time when you think about it, you know.
78:55
So there are aspects to this that I'd love to get people's thoughts on this. So text 0868104106. Send a voice note. It's the same text number, but on WhatsApp 0868104106. She talks about I mean, this is kind of upsetting to say, but drinking in the home, she says she could see the drinking in the home, particularly on a Friday morning when the kids come in, no homework done, half asleep would be the day. Also, the kids wouldn't turn up I mean, that's another aspect, she says, and they've made the kids...
79:26
And as a result of that, she's saying, where's the paragraph? She said that the kids now were becoming more and more uncontrollable.
79:34
Oh, God, that is very sad. Yeah, and I'm sure it's the reality. For some. It's very hard for... Because I know a teacher, a friend of ours, and she does see a lot of that. And it's very hard for the teachers because they're like, where do you draw the line? How do you approach it? You know, it's a very sensitive subject.
79:50
But it's laying guilt on parents, though, even though she mightn't want it to, it is, who out of necessity, she makes the point that out of necessity both have to work, but she says she has spoken to mothers who have said to her in the past that if they had the opportunity not to work, they would take the opportunity not to work.
80:06
Or work part time. I think there's a nice balance there. Look, we all love going out to work. We all love earning our own money and engaging with people and having a purpose outside of the home. But it is that balance. And then on top of that, it's all the activities. Like, it's just gone mental. Like, my kids are in three sports each and it's just that pressure to be in dance and be in this and the other.
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And I just think it's... So why can't they just pick, forgive me, why can't they just pick one that they love?
80:32
It's crazy and they're like oh no all my friends are in it and it's just there is a bit of keeping up with the Joneses with that I think you know it's like you know I see like they're going to gymnastic competitions and Irish dancing and all this you know and I suppose as well I find kids don't go out in the park and play as much anymore so it's all structured play so it's like play dates which are pain like let's face it that you have to organise that you have to drop them off you know that kind of way and like feel like you're doing why don't they play in the park they just don't and like I've driven around even parks in Glanmire and honestly you just don't see it you just don't see it especially during the day because I feel like they're all either with maybe I don't know grandparents or minded somewhere but you definitely don't
81:19
Okay, I have a buddy who took his son's tablet off him for the summer, right? And he said to him, if you complain even once about not having the tablet for the summer, you will never get it back again. But if you just get out there and have a great summer without being a slave to tech and on screens, you will get it back in September when you go to school. And he said the change in his son is incredible. He's out and about with his pals. He's up on his bike. He's exploring places. They're gone from morning. Well, I wouldn't say morning to night, but you know what I mean? They're on adventures every day.
81:49
If they have the freedom to play and have kids in their park, like they should be out with them. Kind of story.
81:55
Let's see what people think about that email anyway in our little chat. Get involved. Text 0868104106. Is it laying guilt on both parents particularly? And this one was through the aspect more guilt on mothers as specifically with regards to Anne's email. Text 0868104106. Pick up the phone 0818104106 and we'll pick up on everything after 11. The Neil Prenderville Show on Red FM.
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82:37
So if they're doing the same one, it's literally, you get the entire chicken and you get it served to the table with all of the veggies and sides and everybody, and everybody digs in themselves. Morning, long-time listener from Kildare. Best show on radio, keep up the good work. Just say hello to Colm and all my hard-working lads who are flat out in Carlo today. Thanks, Neil. Well, it's great to have you aboard all over the country and . . .
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E shame on them for that.
83:49
Spain is providing Skyclaris. We're subsidising Spain. Ireland is a net contributor to the EU. Spain is a net benefactor. So we're paying for their medicines. Interesting perspective, Pa. And Pat says, just a quick point about the medication controversy. It seems everyone feels entitled to everything all of the time. The government can't look at every single request for a drug all of the time. It seems cold, but people on other medications have to be protected too. And all medications have to be costly. I really believe that in most circumstances we are well looked after.
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And I must say, we never had it so good. It always seems to be the same word, doesn't it? Entitled, says Pat. Bom, agora, eu acho que você é entitled to your opinião, por sure você é, mas que não sejam bem com ninguém que está assistindo a loved one ou, indeed, com a loved one themselves, slowly wasting away. I mean, can you imagine how, por exemplo, Craig Cody would feel about being told that he and those looking for intervention to lengthen lives and slow the progression of a disease are feeling entitled? My money is on the fact that it will be reversed Neil.
84:56
It's being used as a ploy to get people angry and then hey presto the government particularly Micheál Martin will ride in and come out smelling of roses. They're a joke the lot of them can't come on air. Love the show. On car crashes I know someone who had a crash years back with no insurance or tax on the vehicle and no license. They had serious injuries and they successfully sued the fully insured driver of the other car and won and got a substantial amount of money. And guess what? They are now driving a big high-powered Jeep on a provisional licence.
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Well, the stories that people share, really and truly. Keep them coming. Text 0868 104 106. Call's on the way.
85:37
Fizzy, Fizzy, good morning.
85:59
Good morning, Neil.
86:00
I'd say you were a very bubbly, effervescent person with a name like Fizzy. Yes.
86:06
Yes.
86:10
So, let me just do a little bit of investigation, right? Because Seamus was down in the Mahan Point market and he came upon your wonderful Ethiopian food stall. Am I right so far?
86:22
Yes.
86:23
Okay. And he got chatting with you. And correct me if I'm wrong now in any part of this. He said when he came back to me that when you first came to Ireland from Ethiopia many years ago, you didn't speak any English. Is that right?
86:37
Yes.
86:37
Okay, so how did you go about learning? Because it's kind of important to be able to speak the native language. How did you do that?
86:45
By listening to you, I suppose. Listen to you.
86:51
So are you telling me that you learned to speak English by listening to my radio programme for the last 20 years or something?
86:59
Yes, 100%, yes.
87:01
With headphones on?
87:04
Mas como você aprende a aprender inglês de me ouvir? Você deve ter sido apenas o doutor, o gobbledy-gook.
87:13
Não, não. Você fala muito bem. Você não é realmente cor, sabe? Você tem um um pouco melhor. Você não tem um pouco melhor. Você não tem um pouco melhor. Você não tem um inglês de inglês?
87:27
I went to College of Commerce twice, then I left it the second day twice. Why? It's just too boring.
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So are you saying that... It's better to listen to you.
87:43
Are you saying that slowly but surely, speaking one of the 80 different Ethiopian languages, slowly but surely, you started to understand a little bit of English and more and more as time went by? Yes. You're joking me, yeah?
88:02
No, not joking. No, I listen to you very well, yeah, and I understand you very well.
88:08
And your English is perfect. You even have a cork accent. And you even end your sentences by saying like.
88:15
Oh, I do a lot when I'm angry.
88:17
And how have you been since you came here? How's life been?
88:21
A lot I've seen down, to be honest. It's not that easy, you know. There's a lot of culture clash, religion clash, weather clash, you know, skin colour clash. But you have to meet them halfway, you know?
88:37
Yeah, yeah. Well, I can't do anything about the weather, unfortunately. No. All of the other issues, I hope, will get better over time. Is that right? Yeah?
88:48
Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's around by very, very nice people.
88:51
So you set up then your food stall. Is that right? The first one. Where was the first one? Was that in Middleton? Mahan. In Mahan. Now you've got two going. And I'm told that business is absolutely flying. But was it shaky at the start? Was it difficult?
89:07
No, no. For me, it's nerve-breaking. To start, because introducing African food, Ethiopian food for Irish people, that was the most difficult ever. Like, I find it so hard. And I had a lot of panic attack a lot of times in the market. Some days I ended in a CEO hit emergency with panic attack.
89:27
Really? Would you get anxiety attack? Why would that come upon you?
89:30
Facing the public and introducing African food and such and such. Even though the people reacted so well and I sold out every week, but still the inside of my anxiety, like, you know, it didn't go away that easily.
89:45
Isn't it true that at one stage a customer brought you to the A&E?
89:48
Yeah, they did.
89:51
They did. Crikey.
89:54
And look at where you're at now. I mean, I suppose it might be difficult. Firstly, opening a food stall all those years ago with Ethiopian food and added to the fact that it was vegan as well.
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Yes, yes, yes. You know what is surprisingly? 98% of my customers, none of them are vegan or vegetarian.
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It's amazing. There wouldn't be even a bit of chicken in it or a bit of beef.
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No, they don't want to. No.
90:19
Wow. So, it's like what? Flatbreads and spices, chilli, stews, things like that?
90:26
Everything, everything, everything. Yeah, name it. You create your own portion or we give you a little bit of everything in the box, like tapas, you know?
90:34
You sell out quite quickly, don't you?
90:37
I do indeed, yeah. Yeah, yeah. Thank you to all my customers.
90:41
What about other aspects of your life? Did you settle down? Did you fall in love?
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I did a couple of times, yeah.
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Are you in love now?
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I do, yeah. Do I have to really say this? Where is he from?
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He's Irish. Alright.
91:04
Olo is Irish. Did he learn Ethiopian?
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No, he didn't. A little bit. A tiny bit.
91:11
So, you've been here for quite a long time. Did you explore Cork? Did you learn about its fascinating history? All those kind of things?
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Yeah, I love Irish. I love Ireland. I always fight for it, you know. We could do better, we do things better, we keep things better. You know, I always fight for it, even though, even the church, I keep fighting for it, like to stay open and to do things and I do charities and I do a lot of things, yeah.
91:40
It's interesting because I was cycling again in the city yesterday and it was absolutely amazing because the sun was shining, everybody was out on the streets, I was everywhere. And it's incredible the amount of... Different nationalities who are here, working here, settled down. And a huge, huge fusion of world food.
92:02
I think so, yeah. Everywhere, yeah. Because I say before, Irish people, they don't know anything. But now it's multicultural. People live in Ireland. So they're very open-minded to try anything.
92:15
Yeah, and I'm looking at photographs of what you're doing at the markets, and there's big, huge bowls full of all sorts of really beautiful, vibrant colours. What are they, like lentils and different kind of salads and things?
92:30
Yes, yes, around eight, ten type of hot dish and cold dish, yeah.
92:35
And do you prepare all of that?
92:38
I do, yeah. At home?
92:41
Yes, I have a kitchen.
92:43
Wow, you must be one busy woman.
92:46
Eh, it's okay, when you're used to it, you're flying, you know?
92:50
Yeah, you'll probably get into your groove, yeah?
92:52
Yes.
92:53
Is it very hot food?
92:55
No, not spicy, no. It's a ride for all Irish people, you know, the heat's like, it's not hot.
93:04
Would you have any spuds in there?
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Yes, of course Of course Food won't be food without sports And are you Are you vegetarian or are you vegan? No, I'm not vegetarian I'm not vegan I have a little bit health issues My blood, sometimes My blood pressure can go zero Zero, from 100 to zero Really?
93:31
So, yeah So you have to mind that But do you, I mean, do you like Irish food?
93:37
Oh, I do. Oh, Jesus, yeah, big time.
93:40
Like what? What do you like? An Irish stew?
93:43
Oh, I love everything. Everything, name it. I'm actually very good at bacon and cabbage. Bacon and cabbage?
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Do you make it?
93:51
Yeah. Get away. Nobody will cook like me, yeah?
93:55
Not even you. What about, say, for instance, Irish stew? Or have you ever tried tripe or drasheen in the English market?
94:04
Oh, I do. Everything, yeah.
94:06
God, you're better than me. I couldn't eat tri-prudrasheen. I've tried loads of times. I just can't do it.
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Yeah, I heard you before you say that. Yeah, no, they're beautiful. If somebody cooks it very well, it's really nice.
94:16
Do you still listen every day?
94:19
Oh, every day, yes. Even I listen to you this morning, yeah. If anybody interrupts me, I go mad, mental.
94:25
What do you say to them?
94:27
Mental. And also in the market, like, if somebody said, oh, Jesus is going to be rain, I said no. They say, how do you know? Because Neil Prendival said it's not going to be rain today. They say, how Neil Prendival? No, because, you know, then we start arguing there, like, you know, all the time.
94:43
Do they ever say to you, I don't know why you listen to that langer?
94:47
Not really, but, you know, in odd time, if somebody says to me, look, like, I'll tell them, cough, like, you know? Nobody's going to stop me, no one whatsoever.
95:00
You speak your mind. I hear you pick up some phrases as well on the air, do you?
95:06
Maybe, a little bit. What kind of phrases? Jesus Christ, you're going to embarrass me.
95:12
That's my objective, is to embarrass you and to mortify you.
95:15
Jesus, I don't even know. I'm talking to you right now. God help us.
95:18
Please don't have a panic attack, will you? For God's sake.
95:22
Oh, I had. Saturday I was in emergency, so I was dark. I swear to God, after I talked to Seamus. And I know it's going to become real. And I say, what am I going to do? What am I going to do?
95:33
You're supposed to just breathe deeply or breathe into a brown paper bag.
95:38
Oh, it won't work. I did last Saturday. I did try. It didn't work. Then I rang to South Dak Emergency and I said, I can't breathe.
95:46
Was that because Seamus asked you on the air?
95:49
Yeah.
95:51
Well, here you are now. It doesn't hurt, does it?
95:53
It does. I'm sweating today's right now, like.
95:56
But I don't bite, do I?
95:57
No, you don't. But I listen. I'm just waiting you, like, how many years? 20 years.
96:04
I'm your brother. I'm your brother. You're my sister.
96:08
Oh, yeah.
96:09
Go and have a lie down in your mattress.
96:13
No worries. No, I'll be okay. I'll be okay. Hopefully I'll see you one day, I suppose.
96:19
Did we ever meet?
96:20
I asked Jason, he asked me one time, what would you like for Christmas? And I say, are you serious? And I say, yeah. Okay, do you want me to pick? He said, yes, anything. And I say, okay, a little print of it. He said, what do you mean? And you ask me and I just told you.
96:36
So can you just arrange a surprise? I don't want to know. He will be there, but just surprise me. He said, okay, but he never did. And since then, I never, ever accepted any Christmas gift. I rejected. I swear, 11 years, I have no any gifts.
96:53
What a... That's your own fault. Be careful what you wish for because you could well be disappointed.
97:01
I'd love to see you in one day. That's what my wish is.
97:05
Well, I'm going to tell you now. One day, on a day that you don't know and you're not expecting, you'll turn around to face out in your stall and I'll be standing in front of you. Hopefully, you won't collapse.
97:18
Jesus, I will. I will. You'll pay for the whole of it.
97:24
And I want to get down and taste your very, very beautiful looking food. I'm sure it tastes even better. So we will meet very soon, believe me.
97:33
Oh, thank you.
97:34
I hope so. We'll have lunch together.
97:36
I hope so. I hope so, Neil.
97:38
Do you go on holidays around Ireland, or do you go back home, or what?
97:42
Home? I don't like it anymore, Neil.
97:46
No?
97:46
It doesn't feel home anymore. Not really.
97:49
Well, you're here so long, you know, I suppose. I know, yeah. Obviously, this is your home, but what about family back home?
97:56
I have a family, but we kind of, like, have...
98:00
Do you speak any Irish?
98:09
No.
98:12
No. No, I like to learn dance, but I could not find anywhere who teach me the Irish dance. I love the Irish dance.
98:21
Oh, well, why don't you do that? You could do an adult education class in the winter.
98:27
I could not find. They only have four kids, though.
98:30
Ok, well, let me find you a course or classes so you can learn a bit of Irish dancing and get a bit of... Oh, it'll be brilliant. Get a bit of Kayleigh into you. I'm quite sure it's down and down. Oh, it'll be brilliant. Where do you live? Do you live in Middleton?
98:43
In Castlemaster.
98:44
Ok, well, here's the challenge. You're driving anyway, so we need to find Irish dancing classes for fizzy. Put an extra fizz in your step.
98:53
Yes, please.
98:54
I'd love to. Let's get that done and get you sorted. And then you'll be really, you'll be more Irish than the Irish themselves.
99:02
Oh, I'm Irish enough. Jesus, I surround my Irish. No, I know, I know that.
99:06
I get that, I get that. Listen, I want to thank you for listening for all those years. It's very kind of you.
99:12
Oh, no, you don't have to thank you to me. I learned so much from you, Neil. And thank you for, you know... Being there for Cork people, you being more than politician, you know?
99:21
Oh my God, well I'm so humble to hear you say things like that.
99:24
No, no, you're doing so much than politician, to be fair.
99:28
Okay, well listen, you're kind to say that and I've enjoyed every year of it, I have to say. It's been a privilege to be on the air.
99:34
I hope you're not leaving the end of this year.
99:36
I ain't going nowhere, sister. I ain't going nowhere. I'm just saying I've enjoyed it all. If there's wonderful people in the world like you, I'll continue to enjoy it.
99:45
Oh Jesus, I hope you're not.
99:47
No, I'd have to stay on the air because you'd find it way too upsetting otherwise.
99:51
Oh, Jesus, big time.
99:53
What would you do with your day?
99:56
If you can.
99:57
If I was hit by a bus.
99:59
If stuff, do nothing, I think, you know. Yeah, honestly, it's hard to forget you. Like, I listened to you how many years. Oh, my God, I don't know.
100:08
Well, at least 20, probably longer.
100:10
Yeah, yeah, 20, yeah. And it won't be only me. A lot of people loved you, you know.
100:15
Well, it's been a privilege. I have to say, Fizzy, I'm so delighted you came on air because it's been a pleasure chatting with you. You're a wonderful person. You really and truly are. Thank you. So look after yourself and take care.
100:25
No worries.
100:26
It's lovely chatting with you.
100:28
All right.
100:28
And Fizzy is in the Middleton Market every Saturday from 9 in the morning to 1.30 and the Mahan Point Market every Thursday from 10am till 2pm. Check her out, lads. They won't be disappointed. Fizzy, thank you so much for taking the call.
100:43
Ok. Tchau, tchau. Tchau, tchau.
100:45
Tchau, tchau. Bye-bye, sister. Tchau, tchau, tchau.
100:52
Be part of the conversation. Text 0868104106 and there's loads of texts on all sorts of different topics including it's so lovely to hear your chat with Fizzy. It's great to hear of people that have come from abroad and integrated so well into the community. Must try out her food while she's at both markets. I gave you the detail. Middled in a man. What a super brilliant interview. Fizzy and Prendo doing the Siege of Venice. Like. Now, that would be a sight. So, and part of that interview with Fizzy actually did cover the fact that she would like to learn Irish dancing. So, are there Irish dancing classes for a beginner?
101:24
I'd say she'd catch on really quickly in fairness to Fizzy, which puts her mind to it. She gets it done. And would there be Irish classes that would be at a time that somebody would be . . . . .
101:53
Alright, particularly for primary school children and their both parents working. Allowing children to be bored is absolutely crucial. We live in a fast-paced world and it contributes to finding the summer holidays difficult to fill. Children nowadays crave the what's next, what's next thrill. But we need to encourage more downtime that we aren't filling with activities or screens. Let them develop those skills to imagine and recover from our very busy world. Mourning, listening to you read out that lady's letter and wondering why you're not discussing the government push against the traditional mother in the home rearing their own children, i.e.
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hashtag tradwife. Well, maybe that's what it was back in the day, tradwives, but I'm not quite sure that they were all very happy with their lot back then. E você é certo, há uma campanha de marketing agora com relação ao governo sobre isso e também sobre o dangers de toxicidade masculinidade. Mas eu acho que o ponto sobre trad wives é o pusho que mais e mais pessoas iriam estar interessados em becoming a trad wife se tivesse a oportunidade de estar em casa, mas eu acho que, em mais extremo caso de isso, subserviante para o seu marido ou seu marido.
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E o governo não gosta disso. E eles não gostam desse tipo de narrativa. E eles não gostam de ver o que eles estão vendo online com relação a isso. E isso é uma grande campanha. Acordiante, eu falei sobre isso. Eu falei sobre isso. Então, se alguém está interessado em picking up on that. A whole Tradwife aspecto. Get in touch. Texto 868-104-106. Now, unfortunately, I have to say, there's a man walking on the link... Before the exit there around about Dunstores On the link road On the abandoned road area Heading towards Curraheen He was heading in that area So I'm not quite sure where he is right now But he's walking on the road That would be more the ring road As opposed to the link It would be the ring road itself If you're driving do be careful Because nobody wants to hit him And hopefully he'll get the help that he needs He shouldn't be there in the first place So hopefully that will be sorted out Back to the phone lines we go Cary good morning Morning, Liam, how are you?
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Thanks so much for holding. So, did you hear that email from the... Was it Anne in Douglas?
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Yeah, I did. I caught a bit of it there, but look, I suppose, you know, as parents are under a lot of pressure, I think, in the holidays. And, like, I'm... Well, I suppose in my own situation, everyone's different, but, like, I'm a stay-at-home mum and I've got four children and, like, they're all varying degrees of ages. I have a three-year-old... I have a 9-year-old, I have a 12-year-old, and then I have a 14-year-old.
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From 3 to 14, yeah. They have a lot of different needs and possibly demands.
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They do, and unfortunately, all those little needs and demands, they bounce off each other during the holidays because, you know, they don't take much interest in each other's hobbies too much. And of course, when it comes to the 3-year-old, sure, he stuck to me like glue because... Ele é entretenimento, basicamente. Ninguém else wants to take responsibility.
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E por que você diz que roll-on September 1st?
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Porque tem sido um muito, muito longo. A year é long enough quando eles estão em escola, mas as soon as as holidays come around, você pensa, ah, sure, look, we'll fill it up and we'll go places and we'll do this and do that. I'd say by the first month you've already got all your day trips done because you feel like you're under obligation I suppose to get out in those first few weeks and oh we're free and we can go camping, we can go to the beach, we can go to the cinema, we can do all these things but by the time you hit this time of year it's like a plateau.
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E você tem feito praticamente tudo.
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Mas você pode fazer muitas visitas para o bairro. Eu estou puxando um pouco aqui, só para banter. Mas você pode fazer muitas vezes para o bairro. Você pode fazer muitas vezes para o bairro, não?
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Você pode, mas é mais difícil quando você está tentando fazer um 14 anos de casa e um 12 anos, quando eles dizem, oh, não, especialmente para o 14 anos de casa, eu não, eu não, eu não, eu não, eu não, eu não, eu não, eu não, eu não, eu não, eu não, eu não, eu não, eu não.
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Mas o outro lado também é que você sente que eles estão olhando online, não online, como mine não estão no Facebook, mas eles estão em contacto com seus amigos durante o holidays. E, você sabe, a lot de amigos estão dizendo, oh, sure, nós estamos indo para onde hoje. Oh, nós estamos indo para a semana. Nós estamos indo para a semana. Eles estão sempre indo para onde. E, mesmo que nós estamos não os tipos de pessoas, nós temos que gastar muito tempo em casa. Eu estou com a casa com os kids most do tempo porque, olha, My own circumstances, my husband's out of work for quite some time and our finances took a huge hit.
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So this year has probably been the one year where we have actually spent a lot more time at home. We live in the countryside, we're not in town. We're about 12 minutes outside of town. So to get in, it's a 12 minute drive anyway.
106:54
Okay, well there's a bit of isolation there from their pals, right?
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Yeah, there's a lot of isolation. And then, you know, O que é isso?
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As you were, Anne says, the whole summer long is multiple camps, from art and drama to GAA, and every other sport and everything in between. The longer the camps, the better and the more attractive to parents, because children are not to be an inconvenience. Holidays and days offer to be enjoyed, not endured. I suppose.
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Don't be rushing them.
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She says they're being rushed and hurried as if their day has to be filled with activity when actually it doesn't.
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Well, no, and like a lot of time at home, we do spend a lot of time, like at the moment I have a toddler now running around outside and he'll spend the day outside and probably in the pool now as well today, but like, how can I put it? I suppose maybe it's just that it feels more pressurised on us parents because we feel obligated to And we feel that it's our job to keep them busy 24-7.
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You're guilted into feeling that way though.
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You're guilted, yeah, exactly. You're guilted into feeling that way. But it just gets tiring. It gets tiring because, especially when I'm on my own, my husband's working a lot and he's home late in the evenings. Um, and you know, by the time he gets home and we get dinner, everything off the way, I'm just knackered. Like I've had enough for the day. I just want to go to bed.
108:34
So that's why you're ready to pack the lunches and get them ready to go back to school.
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I am. I've, listen, I've everything ready already. I have all their, that's part of the first year now. I've got all their uniforms and everything is good to go. And my three-year-old is starting preschool as well in September. And, uh, I actually took, he's actually going to be in for five hours as well every day and I promise you I won't know myself because I don't get, I do not get, I can't even go to the bathroom without him in tow. Like I literally have someone stuck to me. There's always someone or the girl's looking for something or the teenager's looking for something that is lost.
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It's 24-7.
109:12
And do you have any adult time with friends or acquaintances where you can hook up pals or anything like that?
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I do, we do, sometimes I meet up with friends and we go to the beach, we do a day trip together or you know we go on a picnic or people call out or I call out to people's houses but It's far and few between, because, you know, like I said, we're isolated, we're out in the countryside, and the cost of fuel, I mean, my car is guzzling fuel at the moment, so you try and avoid, you know, going too far.
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No, I'm just talking about your life and your time, you know, and you're a mum, you're a wife, but you're also a human being, you're a woman, you know, you have your own needs.
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Exactly, and my downtime will probably be when they go back to school, because I'll at least be able to snatch a couple of those hours to myself.
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Somebody said to me there that I wasn't paying enough attention to trad wives. Do you understand the term trad wife?
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I do, but no, I, yeah, no, I, that's kind of going back to, you know, that's the whole kind of thing of, you know, women in the house and
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up to the kitchen think kind of yeah but i suppose maybe one would describe it as focusing on i just picked this up this morning where you look at an explanation for the word trad wife somebody focusing on homemaking marriage raising children while their partners serve as the primary breadwinners and it's a movement that's getting more and more traction particularly across social media platforms you know
110:43
Right, ok.
110:43
I worry about it that it seems to be submissive to a partner and I just wouldn't be comfortable with that.
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No, no, no, no. And no, look, I do have, you know, it's very different here. In my own situation, I've got my own independence anyway. And I certainly, I wouldn't be letting myself get into a position like that either. It's definitely important that like women have to have their own down time.
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you have to be able to switch off. I suffered with postnatal depression after my three-year-old was born and the isolation out here was bad enough.
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How would you navigate through that incidentally with regards to help?
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I'm very, very lucky, actually, because I do have my mum and she's extremely hands-on with the kids as well. She helps out so much. Like, we do take turns. The kids go to her house for a sleepover. She might take one for two nights and then they'll swap over. Another one goes for two nights. So I'm lucky that way I have my mum.
111:45
But that must have been alarming. That must have been upsetting, postnatal depression. I mean, there are a lot of different symptoms, but they can include not being able to bond with the baby kind of thing.
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Yeah, I did find that, I suppose, you know, there is certain instances where I look back on pictures of my son now and, you know, I actually, I can't look at the pictures because I feel, I get so emotional because I can't remember some of those days because I was in such a haze. And, like, incidentally, I did end up on antidepressants for it as well. So, look, I think the medication did help. Yeah. It kind of numbs it to a certain point, so...
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Yeah, it was hard. But look, I came out the other side. My mum was there and my husband was there. My husband is extremely good as well. Very, very supportive. I know we've got a great relationship and great communication. Fair play to the talking.
112:38
Is it a case that in time then it lifts, is it?
112:42
It does. It does. And it does get better. But it really is a lot of self-care and a lot of time out as well. You know, you have to be able to lean on other people and, you know, share the load and just, you know, take it one day at a time, really, is all it is.
112:59
Yeah. Are you following the Lindsay Clancy trial at all, I wonder? Are you aware of that?
113:03
I am. I am.
113:04
What do you know about that?
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I don't know. I can't wrap my head around that at all. I don't know. I can't speculate. I know and I'm trying not to, you know, I'm trying not to fall into the social media trap, but it just...
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She's a former labour and delivery nurse from Massachusetts on trial for the January 2023 strangulation. Forgive me for saying this, the strangulation death for three young children. And her defence is postpartum psychosis.
113:35
You know, I get that to an extent, but in my own experience, I would never, as bad as I was, whenever I had a really bad day and my husband was home, I would walk out the house.
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I would walk out and go sit in my car or I'd walk down the road and go and take my frustrations out down the road or something. I just walked away because I knew I had to walk away.
113:58
Um...
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I can't comprehend, and I don't know, I mean, I suppose we'll never really know what happened there.
114:06
Well, she was on numerous medication prescriptions. Her defence said that she was not criminally responsible, that during the four months leading up to the tragedy, she was on 30 different prescriptions for 13 different psychiatric medications. By multiple healthcare providers. Now, like, this is America, you know what I mean? Perhaps this could happen in Ireland with 30 different prescriptions from 13 different psychiatrists.
114:39
I do think when it comes to, I think doctors are very quick to just hand out medications. Like it's always, you know, take a pill for this or take a pill for that.
114:49
I think when it comes, you know, there's a lot of lack of help on the mental health side. e aí e aí e aí Besides my postnatal depression, I mean, I've been through a lot.
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I was in a car crash seven years ago. I'm still recovering from that. I've got a chronic injury. I'm actually waiting for a procedure in December. So, like, I'm on pain medications as well. And I just find...
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You know, I've had a lot... You've had a lot going on, haven't you? I have, and then my dad passed away last year as well, so add that in. So it's been tough, it's been tough. Yeah. And look... You have to find the strength. You know, you do, and do you know what? My kids have kept me going. As much as I can't wait for them to go back to school, if I actually didn't have them and I didn't have such a busy life...
115:58
I don't know. I think... I don't know how I would cope. Okay.
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Well, listen to me. Listen to me. It's good to chat with you. And talking off always helps, you know. I hope it has helped. Oh, absolutely. We've got these wonderful family passes. I would be very keen to sort you out with a couple of different passes, to be honest with you, Carrie, to... You know, have some more time with the kids. Just things to do. I mean, you've done well all summer long, in fairness to you. But we've got them for all over the county, different family passes. And you can pick or choose a couple that you think might suit 14, 12, 9 and 3-year-olds. You know what I mean?
116:30
That would be great, thanks so much.
116:31
Oh no, thanks for getting on the output.
116:32
Get out of the countryside.
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Yeah, well, there's lots to do and we're going to sort it out for you, alright? So stay on hold there and we'll sort you out one or two. But appreciate you taking the call. Thanks a lot. Take care. That Lindsay Clancy case is very interesting because her defence... Sorry, just need that, yeah.
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Her defence said during trial that she's not criminally responsible due to severe postpartum psychosis and that she has bipolar disorder. They state that she was suffering from severe delusions and hearing voices ordering her to take her children's lives and to take her own life. I mean it's an incredible story. I don't know if anybody else is following it. It just came into our head when we heard we talk of severe postpartum issues and postnatal depression and what have you.
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Conversation that matters.
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Texto 868104106. Donal, good morning. Good morning, how are you doing? You call it the sandwich generation, so you do. Why is that?
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No, I didn't call it that, Neil, but I'll tell you what, I've been listening there and haven't been watching the young parents in my home place.
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I can see how much harder life is for them. Outside of minding children, they're having to mind their parents as well because of all the stuff that their parents need help with because of the advent of technology, okay? So women long ago, the trans wife with some salary and supposed to be to her husband, I would say to that family, okay? mas agora eles se tornam sub-serviante a taxa, porque eles têm muito pouco, para o input que eles fazem na casa e fora da casa, eles têm muito pouco no fim do mês, excepto, talvez, a self-medicação, Então Anne Douglas picked up on that point in the email.
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She says that she noticed as a teacher that the stress was leading and to be honest she could see it to a fair bit of drinking going on at home and the false belief that it will alleviate stress.
119:18
100% Neil because what relaxation have they? They have none. As I said, if I watched people around my home place putting their kids into the car to take them to school, rushing off to work, coming home, having to take them to sports, they're amazing people, to be honest with you, compared with when I was a young man. Okay, I went out to work and my wife stayed at home and looked after the children, but she wasn't subservient to me. I was as subservient to my employer and tax man as my wife was to me and the children, do you understand me?
119:53
I would hate to think, well, I certainly know, because my mother would have been a traditional mother, it was later in life she started going back to work and things like that in fairness to her, but she would have been a traditional wife and mother, but she would have been the apple of my eye and she would not have been in any way subservient to her children, nor I think
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Bem, mas não é subservient, Aileen, não é? Não é subservient, Aileen, não é? Eu não sei, mas ela está em casa para olhar para a família e... Mas, para ser subservient...
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O problema com a trade-wife, algumas pessoas dizem, é que tem sido tão tão longe com relação a, você sabe, o que eu posso fazer e tudo em meu dia deve ser para pleasear meu husband em cada um jeito, seja em cada um jeito, seja em cada um jeito, seja em cada um jeito, seja em cada um jeito, seja em cada um jeito, seja em cada um jeito.
120:38
I don't really think that was the case, Neil, to be honest. I think it was the family. She had to do all that for the family. The husband had to go to work and work out to feed the family, to pay the bills. Do you know what I mean? So I think we were both not getting any free time. Now, the women probably thought they were going to get free time by going out to work, and that was very cleverly worked. They were brought back into the workplace and taken advantage of really as far as I'm concerned because with the cost of living nowadays, they have to go to work.
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It's not a choice. They have to go. How can that be enjoyable? How can a woman get anything out of not being at home, walking away all day? How can it be any different going out Out of work, probably working long or dealing with technology all day long, phone calls probably all day long, answering the phone all day long or whatever.
121:31
How is that about a life?
121:34
I just don't get it. I think they were cheated and fooled into thinking that if they went back to work, that life was going to be better.
121:42
Well, it gave independence and it gave a career path to everybody, regardless of whether you were male or female. But the issue now has more to do with an amount of women who have gone out to work and have admitted, I don't know, there are statistics to back this up anyway, that a lot of the time they would prefer to be at home and not having to work, but they have to work because nothing is affordable now on a single salary.
122:04
Neil, it's 24 horas now. They have two jobs. They have a job in the house still. That hasn't changed.
122:10
So what would be better? The traditional model when in the 60s or the 70s or perhaps 70s?
122:16
So the government to take into account the contribution that women are making to society and pay them a wage for staying at home minding their children.
122:25
Simple as that. That's the facts. If you don't have women or the bearers of children, they're the ones that are keeping... a nível que é e criando dinheiro, realmente, porque... To make a stay-at-home mum, for want of a better term, a paid job?
122:44
A paid worker, yes.
122:47
Has that been suggested anywhere in the world before now?
122:52
I don't know, but I mean, wouldn't the children be better looked after?
122:57
Instead of the mum having to rush off to work, just having the time to put him in and out of the car, rushing off to work, coming home, having to get stuck in and help him with homework, maybe. All sorts of stuff. Deal with the things that kids need looking after.
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Mãe tem que fazer isso também quando ela vem de volta. Então, em fato, Neil, eu vejo uma grande diferença entre os homens e os homens, e eles têm que fazer dois trabalhos, realmente.
123:31
Não é tão tão tão tão tão tão tão tão tão tão tão tão tão tão tão But we have it now as well, Neil.
123:52
I know.
123:52
No, listen, I love the chats.
123:54
I love your point of view. I love everybody's point. I'd love to get more conversations in on this from men and obviously from women, because it's primarily, you know, it's not necessarily their voice is the need to be heard, but they're going through the experiences of it.
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So I'd love to get more on this. They're going through the stress and depression as a result of the lifestyle, the fast-paced lifestyle that they haven't.
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a lead.
124:17
It's horrible Neil. I really think they've been done an injustice really.
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